A Different Kind of Resolution

Last year was a year of big smiles and buckets of tears, hard work and luxurious relaxation, never sitting down and sleeping all day, huge gratitude and what the f*** moments, insurmountable love and loving because it’s who I am. Alongside my compassionate and loving husband (and army of white pups), I have never felt more at home.  Together, Patrick and I have experienced the challenges of slowing down, letting go of the little things, and discovering our unique role in one another's lives. In writing our own vows, we unlocked the most vulnerable pieces of ourselves and promised to love each other unconditionally always and forever. Over the past seven months, I’ve come to understand the difference between marriage and dating, and it’s a bond I hope everyone experiences some day. In our bathroom we hung the “Art of Marriage,” by Wilfred Arlan Peterson and each night when I hop into my essential oil filled bathtub I reread the poem and remind myself that the art of marriage is not only about marrying the right person, it is being the right partner.   

So this year my resolutions are about bettering myself as a partner; rather, than the normal check the boxes kind of resolutions 

  1. Patience with myself, patience with my husband, patience with the world

  2. Focus in the moment, focus on my feelings and reactions,  focus on our marriage

  3. Appreciate and express appreciation of the little things that bring me enjoyment; after all, I’ve learned gratitude unexpressed may be interpreted as ingratitude (Andy Stanley, I Owe Who)

  4. Self-study (sanskrit: svadyaya), study the bible, study yoga, be a student of life

  5. Learn from those who inspire me, learn from difficult people, learn from my partner, our daughter, and friends

  6. Listen to my gut feelings, listen to my partner, listen to understand

  7. Better myself as a partner, better myself as a mother, better myself as a leader

  8. Rest soundly, rejuvenate intentionally, snuggle adoringly

  9. Love unconditionally

  10. Trust God

The Art Of A Good Marriage
by Wilferd Arlan Peterson

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created. In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner; it is being the right partner.

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Carly Grace Milyo

Born in New York City,  Carly Grace grew up in Atlanta and graduated from The Westminster Schools.  Carly received her Bachelor of Science in Human Development, and graduated Summa Cum Laude from Virginia Tech in 2012. During her college career, Carly began practicing yoga as an escape from her intense ACC Cheerleading training. The rigor and requirements Carly upheld as an ACC athlete combined with the social expectations and action packed schedule expected of an Alpha Phi left Carly depleted both physically and mentally.  Before Carly found yoga, she used running, partying with friends, and restricting her diet to maintain a sense of control in her life. It was Carly's true desire to find more purposeful and authentic friendships and to invest her time in cultivating her greater well-being and spirituality that lead her to yoga. 

The creativity and physical challenge of yoga captivated and inspired Carly. Yoga was the first thing Carly practiced where the perfect-ten mentality was not required; in fact, perfection is the antithesis of yoga principles.  After hanging up her poms poms and retiring from her ACC Cheerleading career, Carly quickly found herself  invested in the In Balance Yoga Community in Blacksburg, VA.  With encouragement and affirmation from Studio Owner, Becky Crigger, Carly set out for New York City to train with Dana Trixie Flynn at Laughing Lotus Love Skool.

Yoga Alliance 200 E-RYT, Carly has studied and practiced with many influencers and teachers all over the United States.  Carly currently teaches Thunderbolt Power Yoga®;  a powerful alignment based vinyasa flow inspired by some of her greatest influencers including, Dana Trixie Flynn and Baron Baptiste.  Carly infuses creative ideas and sequencing into her classes. Her purpose as a teacher is to inspire people to move like themselves. Carly is committed to helping students be audaciously playful in both their practice and in their lives. 

You can catch Carly Grace teaching at her studio Thunderbolt Power Yoga, at off-site events such as the infamous FIT Yoga Series with Carly Grace at W Atl Buckhead, at music festivals, corporate conferences, and more!  Be sure to look out for Carly's quarterly Boombox Power Yoga® Class offered alongside a live DJ, accompanied by her pink boombox, and enhanced with a 16 inch disco ball. 

In the mean time, you can follow her adventures on instagram (@yoga__barbie) or give her a wave when you see her drive by in her infamous pink jeep!