Mommy Guilt, it's Not What You Think

Mommy Guilt, according to urban dictionary, is time a mother takes to do something for herself that does not involve her children.  When Channing came along my world shifted instantaneously and my previous concentration with our yoga studio, staff, and day-to- day operation dissipated. Have you ever experienced fight or flight feelings that send you in a tailspin? The kind of urgency a town evacuation might instill? The drop everything and go when your sister needs you response? On January 19, 2018 sweet baby Channing arrived a scary 9 weeks early and my whole world changed.

It’s my passion, curiosity, and desire to be engaged in meaningful human interaction that contributes to the ways I envision motherhood.  Im a yellow, which means I etch fun into life and lead with a positive candor that is bound to diffuse when I am around; otherwise, you will likely smell the lavender lifting your mood.

But let’s get serious for just a moment, some of the traits I’m blessed with also make it beyond-challenging for me to work within structure. I am terrible at sitting still, I am distracted easily, and my attention span is about as long as a great commercial. As a young entrepreneur, my on-the-go attitude combined with my need for social interaction put community building at the forefront of my business plan and created a genius platform for the free word of the mouth marketing campaign that helped grow Thunderbolt Power Yoga.

Enter motherhood,

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Is anyone familiar with the urgent non-urgent importance matrix? Take a yellow who already has a difficult time remembering things and staying on task and give them a baby. Babies take place in the urgent and important category; and, I would argue only one thing can exist in this matrix at a time. For me, the motherhood instinct is primal and Channing’s entry into the world came with an unwritten disclaimer: this baby trumps business. Whatever was on my plate the day before Channing arrived was shoved into a new quadrant and I adjusted my life, my expectations, and my priorities. If you’d asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, my answer would have included motherhood infused with my entrepreneurial spirit. While both are possible, one must take precedent; thus, the mommy guilt.

My mommy guilt is unlike the guilt you might imagine. It has less to do with sweet Channing and more to do with my first baby, my yoga baby. Before I became a mother, I had space to hang out at the studio chit-chatting with yogis, lunching with leaders, and making small talk at Hammond nails after a pranayama rich asana flow. The extras of entrepreneurship that sparked my creative juices were constantly flowing as I hopped from mastermind breakfasts, to lunches with friends, and afternoons spent reading and writing and engrossed in the type of content that sparked my spirit.  

Life looks different now, I’ve chipped away from the non-urgent and said buh-bye to the non-important. I’ve never been better at saying no and I manage my time like a pro until Channing awakens from her nap:  Oh shoot, has it already been 45 minutes? As I close packed classes in savasana a ping of mommy guilt overwhelms my heart and then I feel it - a let down is coming. It’s time to head home, breast pump in tow, to see our sweet peanut. Motherhood calls.

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Carly Grace Milyo

Born in New York City,  Carly Grace grew up in Atlanta and graduated from The Westminster Schools.  Carly received her Bachelor of Science in Human Development, and graduated Summa Cum Laude from Virginia Tech in 2012. During her college career, Carly began practicing yoga as an escape from her intense ACC Cheerleading training. The rigor and requirements Carly upheld as an ACC athlete combined with the social expectations and action packed schedule expected of an Alpha Phi left Carly depleted both physically and mentally.  Before Carly found yoga, she used running, partying with friends, and restricting her diet to maintain a sense of control in her life. It was Carly's true desire to find more purposeful and authentic friendships and to invest her time in cultivating her greater well-being and spirituality that lead her to yoga. 

The creativity and physical challenge of yoga captivated and inspired Carly. Yoga was the first thing Carly practiced where the perfect-ten mentality was not required; in fact, perfection is the antithesis of yoga principles.  After hanging up her poms poms and retiring from her ACC Cheerleading career, Carly quickly found herself  invested in the In Balance Yoga Community in Blacksburg, VA.  With encouragement and affirmation from Studio Owner, Becky Crigger, Carly set out for New York City to train with Dana Trixie Flynn at Laughing Lotus Love Skool.

Yoga Alliance 200 E-RYT, Carly has studied and practiced with many influencers and teachers all over the United States.  Carly currently teaches Thunderbolt Power Yoga®;  a powerful alignment based vinyasa flow inspired by some of her greatest influencers including, Dana Trixie Flynn and Baron Baptiste.  Carly infuses creative ideas and sequencing into her classes. Her purpose as a teacher is to inspire people to move like themselves. Carly is committed to helping students be audaciously playful in both their practice and in their lives. 

You can catch Carly Grace teaching at her studio Thunderbolt Power Yoga, at off-site events such as the infamous FIT Yoga Series with Carly Grace at W Atl Buckhead, at music festivals, corporate conferences, and more!  Be sure to look out for Carly's quarterly Boombox Power Yoga® Class offered alongside a live DJ, accompanied by her pink boombox, and enhanced with a 16 inch disco ball. 

In the mean time, you can follow her adventures on instagram (@yoga__barbie) or give her a wave when you see her drive by in her infamous pink jeep!