For many having a preemie baby is unexpected, unplanned, unexplained. Without warning an unbelievably tiny wonder enters the world disrupting everything you imagined parenthood to be. Stroller rides and tummy time are replaced with feeding tubes and incubators. The golden hour becomes a race to rescue your tiny warrior safely to her incubator, and you await the precious time where you get to hold your baby skin to skin. Pregnancy books don’t cover the third trimester without a baby in your belly, and parenting books don’t cover the two and a half months before your baby is born. In the most beautiful cases, preemie babies and their parents survive those first few months, but not without fear, support, and an unbelievable amount of love.
When Channing was born I put a simple post in an Atlanta moms Facebook group, “The Mom Posse” asking if there were any fellow preemie mamas that might lend some advice. While I was hopeful to meet another mom or two, I never expected the outpouring of support I received. Within hours my inbox was filled with heartfelt testimonials, offers to bring clothes and help with meals, and even mamas who simply wanted to come visit us in the NICU. Having so many people offer notes of encouragement and support was unfamiliar to me. As a yoga studio owner, my role has always been in cultivating a supportive community for others, boosting others up, and in offering others what they need to hear.
So often in yoga class I remind my students; each individual person has an impact on the class, each body generates heat, each breath creates the breath of the room, each worry is the worry of another. Without each other the class would be empty and the energy sparse. Whether or not our students realize the impact they have on each other, I’ll never fully know, but I can tell you the impact they have on me. A supportive breath, a supportive smile, and a supportive message all show love for one another.
John 13:35: “by this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
Disruption provides opportunity for vulnerability. Vulnerability provides an opportunity for authenticity. Authenticity makes genuine connections. Sometimes the best things in life are unexpected, unplanned, and unexplained.